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Grumpiness it’s a Good Thing

Grumpiness it a Good ThingGrumpiness is the feeling of being slightly annoyed. He all know grumpiness when we see it. The average U.S. adult will be in a bad mood 300 times a year. People can be grumpy for various reasons. According to the interwebs, some of these reasons are: Lack of sleep, Being hangry, Health problems, and Stress. However. Grumpiness could be the secret to success. Meredith Bennett-Smith explains in a article on Quartz that grumpiness has benefits for your job.

professor of psychologyThe author cites studies that say that feeling slightly down seems to make some people more attentive and detail-oriented in their thinking. Joseph Forgas a professor of psychology at the University of New South Wales says that the connection between irritation and attentiveness has evolutionary underpinnings. Mild negative moods can lead to us being more observant, and paying more attention to detail. “Negative mood operates as a mild alarm signal, informing us that we face a new, unfamiliar and potentially problematic situation, and so subconsciously produce a more attentive and focused thinking style.

Advantages of grumpiness

PessimistEvidence suggests that pondering the worst has some clear advantages. Pessimists may be superior negotiators, more discerning decision-makers and cut their risk of having a heart attack. They can expect more stable marriages, higher earnings and longer lives – though, of course, they’ll anticipate the opposite. At the center this is the fact that our feelings are adaptive. They have they evolved to serve useful functions and help us thrive.

In a 2009 study Matthijs Baas at the University of Amsterdam found that students that were “a bit angrier” but not “driven to full-blown fits of rage,” produced more ideas. Their contributions were also more original, repeated by less than 1% of the study’s participants. They were better at moments of haphazard innovation, or so-called “unstructured” thinking. Professor Baas explains. “Anger really prepares the body to mobilize resources – it tells you that the situation you’re in is bad and gives you an energetic boost to get you out of it.”

The brain

The brainTo understand how this works, first we need understand with what’s going on in the brain. When you face stressful situations, your body releases hormones which prepare you for action. Then it’s up to chemical signals in the brain to get you riled up. The brain release different hormones when you are grumpy. Some of these hormones are:

  • Cortisol: This is a stress hormone that is released when we feel threatened or anxious.
  • Adrenaline: This is another stress hormone that is released when we face danger or excitement. 
  • Testosterone: This is a sex hormone that is associated with dominance and aggression.

It is believed that this physiological response has evolved primarily to prepare the body for physical aggression. However,  this reaction is also known to have other benefits. It boosts motivation and gives people the intestinal fortitude to take mental risks. In fact, scientists are increasingly recognizing that grumpiness may be beneficial to the full range of social skills – improving language skills, memory and making us more persuasive. Professor Forgas explains. “Negative moods indicate we’re in a new and challenging situation and call for a more attentive, detailed and observant thinking style.”

Grumpiness encourages people to act better

In line with this, research has also found that feeling slightly down enhances our awareness of social cues. Professor Forgas used the dictator game to demonstrate that grumpiness encourages people to act in a better way towards others. The dictator game is a simple economic game that tests how people behave when they have the power to allocate resources between themselves and others.

It turns out that happier participants keep more of the prize for themselves. While those in a sad mood are significantly less selfish. “People who are feeling slightly down pay better attention to external social norms and expectations, and so they act in a fairer and just way towards others,” says Forgas.

Defensive Pessimism

Grumpiness creates a “Defensive pessimism” outlook. Murphy’s Law, the universal constant that whatever can go wrong, will go wrong is at the center of Defensive pessimism. By anticipating the worst, you can be prepared when it actually happens.

Defensive PessimismDefensive pessimism works like this. As an example, you have a presentation due at work. With defensive pessimism all you do is think of the worst possible outcomes. There is a traffic jam heading in to the office, your are late for the meeting, your PPT file is corrupt, your boss is going to ask hard questions. These worries spin and spin in your brain. So you need to think of some solutions to be prepared. As Andy Grove wrote, Only the paranoid survive.

Happiness is not the answer

Happiness carries far more serious risks that grumpiness. Happiness is associated oxytocin, the cuddle hormone. Studies have shown that oxytocin reduces our ability to identify threats. It prevents us paying due attention to dangers such as binge drinking, overeating and unsafe sex.

Happy hazeHappiness functions like a shorthand signal that we’re safe and it’s not necessary to pay too much attention to the environment,” Professor Forgas says. Those in a continuous happy haze may miss important cues. Instead, they may be over-reliant on existing knowledge – leaving them prone to serious errors of judgement. In one study, Forgas and colleagues found that those in a good mood were less able to think skeptically and were significantly more gullible.

Gabriele Oettingen from New York University found that optimism about the future may have the most ironic effects. Positive fantasies about the future can be profoundly de-motivating. She says, “People feel accomplished, they relax, and they do not invest the necessary effort to actually realize these positive fantasies and daydreams.

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Grumpiness is good for you. The next time someone tells you to “cheer up” tell them you are improving your improving language skills, memory, persuasiveness, and sense of fairness. Then you can have the last cynical laugh.

 

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Ralph Bach has been in IT long enough to know better and has blogged from his Bach Seat about IT, careers, and anything else that catches his attention since 2005. You can follow him on LinkedInFacebook, and Twitter. Email the Bach Seat here.

10 Step to a Happier You

10 Step to a Happier YouThanks to the relatively new field of positive psychology, science has come up with a few ways to make humans happier. Jessica Stillman summarizes some of the findings for Inc. She points out findings of what makes people truly happy and offers actionable suggestions to become better, most joyful versions of themselves.

What makes people happier

Practice gratitudePractice gratitude. According to research, consciously counting your blessings is a workout for your brain’s capacity for gratitude, making it easier to be more positive and happier going forward. (Complaining works in the opposite way, causing your brain to default to gloom.) Here are a few practical, science-backed ideas to cultivate an appreciation for the good things in your life.

Focus on the now. Ms. Stillman points out that we usually think of daydreaming as a pleasurable activity, but recent studies show that letting your mind wander can actually make you miserable. According to science, paying careful attention to what you’re doing in the present moment boosts well-being even if what you’re doing is as boring as the dishes. It appears that focusing on the task at hand acts as a simple form of mindfulness, calming the mind by blocking future worries or ruminations on the past in a way that’s akin to meditation.

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The science is unequivocal. Moving your body is a powerful happiness booster. The author writes that regular exercise works as well as popular antidepressant drugs at relieving depression because working up a sweat increases the number of neurotransmitters circulating in our brains. It also reduces stress, and, of course, keeps you healthy.

Get out in nature. Humans are hardwired to need physical exercise, the same can be said of nature. Humans have lived in cities for a blink of evolutionary time after spending millions of years evolving on the savannah. The article concludes that is why study after study demonstrates that getting out in nature has profoundly positive effects on our mood. Even putting a simple potted plant on your desk will boost your happiness.

Be kind. The point of generosity, as commonly understood, is helping others, but according to research, lending a helping hand is also a huge happiness booster for the do-gooder. Simply reminding yourself that small acts of kindness have big impacts on yourself and others can help make you happier.

Connect. Humans are social animals, so it shouldn’t come as much of a surprise that socializing makes us happier. For instance, the article cites a study that revealed that for those suffering through a grumpy day, meeting with friends as soon as possible was a surefire mood booster.

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Using Facebook and social media to plan get-togethers may have a positive effect on your state of mind, according to Ms. Stillman, but passively browsing other people’s feeds has a negative impact on your state of mind.

Looking at carefully curated and often highly distorted representations of other people’s lives have been shown to increase envy and loneliness, and decrease life satisfaction. One study even found that quitting Facebook results in a boost in well-being. Be conscious of how you consume social media.

Tame your materialism. The author points out that a pile of studies shows that craving more and better stuff seriously dents your happiness. Science also shows it’s entirely possible to get a handle on your materialism and boost your well-being by consciously reflecting on your values, keeping a careful eye on your spending, and turning away from advertising as much as Spend wisleypossible.

Spend wisely. Despite what #8 says, spending money can make you happier. The article explains that buying a bigger TV will improve your mood for a few days, but spending on experiences can help us squeeze more joy out of our hard-earned cash.

Spending on travel, for instance, will purchase you the pleasure of planning the trip (which research reveals to be about as enjoyable as the trip itself), a chance to bond with your fellow travelers, and a lifetime of happy memories to savor. It’s a better deal than nearly anything you could pick up at the mall.

Trim your commute. When researchers rank activities for how happy they make us, commuting consistently comes in near the bottom of the list. It’s no surprise that sitting in traffic sucks, but the magnitude of misery commuting brings into your life might surprise you. “Driving in traffic is a different kind of hell every day,” Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert has commented.

No wonder, then, that experts strongly urge those considering buying a house far from their work to think carefully about the trade-offs involved, and suggest those who can swap bikes, trains, or their home office for that time in the car consider doing so.

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Ralph Bach has been in IT long enough to know better and has blogged from his Bach Seat about IT, careers, and anything else that catches his attention since 2005. You can follow him on LinkedInFacebook, and Twitter. Email the Bach Seat here.

How To Be Happier And Healthier At Work

Happier And Healthier At WorkWant to feel 87% more energized and 62% happier at work? The answer might be easier than you think: Get a standing desk! Not only does standing at work make you happier, but it can also make you healthier too.

Sitting for 6+ hours can make you 18% more likely to die from diabetes and heart disease according to an infographic from Ultimate Mats. The infographic shows you ways to be happier and healthier at work—simply by correcting your posture.

For example, if you’re using a sitting desk, you should place the computer screen at your eye level—this helps to prevent neck aches. You should also tuck your shoulders in as it prevents hunching and the over-extension of your muscles.

If you are using a standing desk, the infographic suggests standing 20 to 28 inches away from the screen and keeping your keyboard at or below elbow height.  To find out more tips on how to stay happy and healthy at work, check out the infographic below:
Ultimate Mats infographic

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I have written about the impact of working on your health a couple of times here and here – Work still doesn’t seem to be any better for your life.

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Ralph Bach has been in IT long enough to know better and has blogged from his Bach Seat about IT, careers, and anything else that catches his attention since 2005. You can follow him on LinkedInFacebook, and Twitter. Email the Bach Seat here.

Beat Stress & Boost Happiness

Beat Stress & Boost HappinessJust in time to make a New Year Resolution, interactive game, and social media site Happify has created an infographic that teaches us about stress and how we can boost happiness.

Titled ‘How to beat stress & boost happiness’, this infographic gives valuable tips on how to beat stress in easy ways while avoiding any stress-induced illnesses.

How to beat stress & boost happiness

 

Ralph Bach has been in IT long enough to know better and has blogged from his Bach Seat about IT, careers, and anything else that catches his attention since 2005. You can follow him on LinkedInFacebook, and Twitter. Email the Bach Seat here.